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A recognized expert in her field, Dr. Zoldbrod's work featured recently by the American Psychological Association

and featured on That Relationship Show Podcast


I Can Help You With Teletherapy!

During this stressful time of social distancing, fear, and forced isolation, I am working remotely, using a HIPAA platform called I have long been interested in and certified in several modalities of trauma treatment, including EMDR ( way back in 1997) and Sensorimotor (2009) Anxiety is certainly one of the most unpleasant emotions a human being can experience. 

Emotions are physical experiences, and this emotion is torture.  Many of you are so worried about survival that your sex lives feel irrelevant.  Psychotherapy , even though it is e-therapy, can help untangle the web of  unease you may be  trapped in. It can help you tame and release your frightened thoughts and overcome crippling physical symptoms and free you up to use this time productively.

Some people do want to use this time to work on sexual and relationship issues.

The advantage of teletherapy is that you don’t have to be within easy driving distance in order to get help from  me.  Some people are less disturbed by this worldwide pandemic than others.  I still have people calling me to work on sexual and relationship issues like orgasm difficulties, E.D., difficulties with arousal, fighting, feeling distant from their partner, desire discrepancies. and so forth.

We all just have to follow the rules and stay safe. This time will pass.

For Women Only: A Strategy to Increase Your Pleasure Receiving Genital Touching and Oral Sex


How do you feel about the way your vulva looks?  If you are less than comfortable with it, please read on.

Women with poor genital self-image tend  to experience sexual dysfunction, and I imagine that  feeling inhibited about genitals often increases a woman’s  inability to enjoy  receiving oral sex.  As a female sex therapist, this issue seems critical to me, because other research has found that  the ability to enjoy receiving oral sex is correlated with positive feelings toward sexuality.

One piece of  hard evidence for the relationship between concern  about how one’s genitals look and sexual  hangups   is a recent study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy***, where  scientists  studied 1619 women who had had sex the four previous weeks.  They proved it!  They found that concerns with genital appearance were distracting and, in turn, women with genital appearance concerns experienced less sexual pleasure.

      I have seen this phenomenon  over and over in the women who come to see me.

   One of my patients, Anne,  had I especially intense feelings of shame about her vulva. This prevented her from having any pleasure with gentle genital  touch, and for her,  oral sex was completely off the table.

     Toward the end of one  session,  I suggested that Anne spend the next week looking at pictures of vulvas on the internet.  I was sure that  this kind of exposure therapy would be effective.  I was right. It worked wonders.

Anne came back in to see me, reporting that she had been much more comfortable with her partner’s giving her genital touch after our  experiment.    She was amazed.  She reported, “I looked at a lot of different pictures.  This was so helpful because I found that all vulvas  are not the same.  The pictures ran the gamut of different sizes and shapes.  When I looked at all the pictures, it neutralized my inhibition.  I must have looked at 100 vulvas,  all sorts.  I really couldn’t believe how different every one looked. It was shocking to me. 

She was so happy that her ability to enjoy herself was improved, and she vowed that she will keep working on herself until she was willing to try receiving oral sex.

Do you want to try this yourself?  If you  Google  vulvas, you will come up with a website that has photos of 50 ordinary women’s vulvas.  


***Vigil KE, de Jong DC, Poovey KN. Roles of Genital Self-Image, Distraction, and Anxiety in Women's Sexual Pleasure: A Preregistered Study. J Sex Marital Ther. 2021;47(4):325-340. doi: 10.1080/0092623X.2021.1874581. Epub 2021 Jan 25. PMID: 33492188.


Overcoming Sexual Challenges After Prostate Surgery

About 1 man in 9 will be diagnosed with prostate cancer during his lifetime. Prostate cancer develops mainly in older men and in African-American men, but younger men can be diagnosed as well. (Approximately 6 cases in 10 are diagnosed in men aged 65 or older, and it is rare before age 40.)   Here is an article I wrote in 2013 about dealing with your sexuality after treatment for prostate cancer."

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Hey: If You Love Your Partner, Why Aren't You Kissing More?

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Kissing IS WAY more important in your relationship than you think it is, folks. Unless things are really bad between the two of you, more affection and kissing is a good way to increase intimacy, happiness, loving feelings, and life enhancing hormones. The brilliant anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D. says that romantic love has three components, romance, attachment, and sexual arousal. Remarkably, kissing is the magic ingredient. It activates all three of these components.

A Scientific American magazine article notes that each kiss triggers a cascade of brain signals and chemicals that transmit tactile sensations, euphoric feelings, and feelings of closeness. If you look at a diagram of the human body called the Homunculus, which shows which parts of the body are the most endowed with nerve endings, you’ll see that the face and the lips are larger than most other parts of the body, except for the genitals and the hands.

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The lips are full of sensory neurons. When we kiss, these neurons shoot messages to the brain and the body, carrying both sensations and intense emotions that trigger further physical reactions. Unbelievably, almost half of the cranial nerves are sparked, sending a cocktail of brain chemicals that control your level of stress (GABA), motivation (dopamine), bonding (acetylcholine) and stimulation (serotonin).

If things have cooled in your relationship, I would not advise just jumping in and pouncing on your partner and locking lips. I might say something like, “hey, I’ve been reading about kissing, and I’ve been thinking I miss kissing you, and I would like to do it more. What do you think?” If your partner says yes, I promise you, your relationship will get a very wonderful boost.

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Here's a snippet of what they said about me: "Throughout her career, Aline has had a positive impact on many people’s lives. She has seen couples reconnect with one another in her office. She has seen individuals overcome their limiting beliefs and embrace their sexuality. Dr. Zoldbrod is particularly keen to help women learn to enjoy having sex. “I firmly believe that each woman can learn to accept and appreciate the pleasures of her own sexuality, no matter what her age or her prior history,” she said. “This is one of my passions as a sex therapist.”

A recognized expert in her field, Dr. Zoldbrod's work featured recently by the American Psychological Association

and featured on That Relationship Show Podcast

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about dr zoldbrod

Dr. Aline Zoldbrod is a licensed psychologist and Boston sex therapy practitioner, seasoned sex therapist, teacher and trainer in sexuality, and author of multiple books on sexuality.

Practicing sex therapy in the Boston, MA area, Dr. Z is thoughtful and creative in her approach to help her clients gain confidence and overcome issues.

Dr. Z is a repeat author, including the award-winning book Sex Smart. Dr. Z has been featured or quoted in the Chicago Tribune, New York Times,, Los Angeles Times,, Boston Globe, Ladies Home, and in many other publications.