Tips from Boston Sex Therapist Dr. Aline Zoldbrod
Straight men in the middle of a long term relationship, are you looking for a healthy and happy sexual relationship? What you know about your partner’s preferences for physical contact may be wrong, and here is how to find out.
“And I’m here to tell you that in long term, steady relationships, men often get it wrong when it comes to touching their female partners’ breasts.” Says Dr. Zoldbrod “So guys, think before you grab.”
Infertility affects men and women differently. Sometimes these differences are not readily apparent. However, these differences can effectively drive a wedge into the relationship. Understanding what the other person is feeling is important.
“Women quickly feel personally inadequate, because the social role of “mother” isn’t really optional in our society.” Says Dr. Zoldbrod. “Infertility causes some men to have disturbing changes in their body imagery and sexual imagery...”
Treatment of sexual compulsions has yielded a wealth of information regarding “why” a sexual addiction may develop. As such, this information has also enabled the ability to address sexual compulsions with positive results.
“As a professional who treats men and women suffering from sexual compulsions, I hope I can draw a compassionate picture of the ‘typical sexual addict’.” Says Dr. Zoldbrod “...There are two common pathways to becoming a sex addict, and they interact.”
A sexless marriage can exist between otherwise totally compatible people. There are steps to break free of this situation. By working together towards a common goal this can be changed to a healthy sexual relationship.
Dr. Zoldbrod writes, “Well, it is not uncommon to find some very wonderful but sex-less couples these days that secretly have the “Panda Syndrome.” Their friends have no idea that they are not sexual partners. They seem so perfect together.”
What you think you know about erectile dysfunction may be incorrect! While there are certainly physiological reasons for erectile dysfunction, there are many other factors that can contribute to loss of erection.
“Despite every man’s wish to be completely potent throughout life, occasional erectile problems are a commonplace but upsetting event.” Says Dr. Zoldbrod “ …most erectile problems can be successfully treated.”
Dr. Zoldbrod offers her take on the results of a recent study on the sexual experience while under the effects of marijuana vs. alcohol.
Are you worried about teens watching porn? Boston sex therapist Dr. Zoldbrod is concerned too, and provides helpful guidance for improving parental influence through the teen years.
Do you find yourself uninvited to holiday meals or other get togethers? This article in the Chicago Tribune provides some great ideas to deal with it, including recommendations by Boston sex therapist Dr. Zoldbrod.
On men and women over 50: “We're not dead yet. And even if we don't look like movie stars, we still recognize that we can feel pleasure in our bodies,” says Dr. Zoldbrod.
On sexual healing: there’s a “correlation between sexuality and feelings of well being and general health.”
Attention entrepreneurs! You need to schedule time, just the two of you, hanging out together...or going to dinner and a movie.
"My role is to explain to these husbands that women need time to get back in touch and in tune emotionally before they can feel any real desire to jump into bed," says Zoldbrod.